(Sharing from an email)
A young man married a beautiful woman who had previously divorced 10 husbands. On their wedding night, she told her new husband to "Please beg entle; I'm still a virgin". *
"What?" said the puzzled groom. "How can that be if you've been married ten times?"
"Well, husband#1 was a Sales Representative; **he kept telling me how great it was going to be.
"Husband # 2 was in Software Services; he was never really sure how it was suppose to function; but he said he'd look into it and get back with me.
"Husband # 3 was from Field Services; he said that everything checked out diagnostically but he just couldn't get the system up.
"Husband # 4 was in Telemarketing; even though he knew he had the order, he didn't know when he would be able to deliver.
"Husband # 5 was an Engineer,** he understood the basic process but he wanted three years to research, implement, and design a new state of the-art method.
"Husband #6 was from Administration; he thought he knew how but he wasn't sure whether it was his job or not.
"Husband # 7 was in Marketing; although he had a product, he was never sure how to position it.
"Husband # 8 was a Psychiatrist; all he did was talk about it.
"Husband # 9 was a Gynecologist; **all he did was look at it.
"Husband # 10 was a Stamp Collector; all he ever did was........ God I miss him.
" But now that I've married you, I'm so excited".
"Wonderful", said the husband, "but why?
"Your're with the *"GOVERNMENT.. This time I KNOW I'M gonna get SCREWED."
Thursday, December 20, 2007
Friday, December 07, 2007
Just like...
Dance like no one is watching
Love like you'll never be hurt
Sing like no one is listening
Live like it's heaven on earth
Love like you'll never be hurt
Sing like no one is listening
Live like it's heaven on earth
(Sharing from Eunice)
Wednesday, December 05, 2007
Love Letter from HR Manager
(Thanks Qi Jun for this sharing)
To, Juliet Grade 7.0 S.M
Sub: Offer of love!
Dearest Ms Juliet,
I am very happy to inform you that I have fallen in Love with you since the 14th of October (Saturday). With reference to the meeting held between us on the 13th of Oct. at 1500hrs, I would like to present myself as a prospective lover. Our love affair would be on probation for a period of three months and depending on compatibility, would be made permanent. Ofcourse, upon completion of probation, there will be continuous on the jobtraining and performance appraisal schemes leading up to promotion from lover to spouse. The expenses incurred for coffee and entertainment would initially be shared equally between us. Later, based on your performance, I might take up a larger share of the expenses. However I am broadminded enough to be taken care of, on your expense account.
I request you to kindly respond within 30 days of receiving this letter, failing which, this offer would be cancelled without further notice and I shall be considering someone else. I would be happy, if you could forward this letter to your sister, if you do not wish to take up this offer.
Wish you all the best!
Thanking you in anticipation,
Yours sincerely,
Romeo
HR Manager
To, Juliet Grade 7.0 S.M
Sub: Offer of love!
Dearest Ms Juliet,
I am very happy to inform you that I have fallen in Love with you since the 14th of October (Saturday). With reference to the meeting held between us on the 13th of Oct. at 1500hrs, I would like to present myself as a prospective lover. Our love affair would be on probation for a period of three months and depending on compatibility, would be made permanent. Ofcourse, upon completion of probation, there will be continuous on the jobtraining and performance appraisal schemes leading up to promotion from lover to spouse. The expenses incurred for coffee and entertainment would initially be shared equally between us. Later, based on your performance, I might take up a larger share of the expenses. However I am broadminded enough to be taken care of, on your expense account.
I request you to kindly respond within 30 days of receiving this letter, failing which, this offer would be cancelled without further notice and I shall be considering someone else. I would be happy, if you could forward this letter to your sister, if you do not wish to take up this offer.
Wish you all the best!
Thanking you in anticipation,
Yours sincerely,
Romeo
HR Manager
Monday, December 03, 2007
點名遊戲
游戲規則
被點到名字的要在自己的博客裏寫下自己的答案，然後去掉一個你最不喜歡的問題再补上一個你的問題，仍然組成20個問題，傳給其他8個人，列出其他8個需要回答問題的人的名字，還要到這8個人的博客裏留言通知對方—-你被點名了，被點名者不得拒絕回答問題，完成遊戲的人將會永遠得到大家的祝福。
這8個人要在自己的博客裏註明是從哪裏接到的，並且再傳給其他8個人，讓遊戲繼續下去，不得囘傳。被點到名字的人將會得到大家的祝福，並且所有美好的願望都會在不久的將來實現。
點名者 Jacez.com 之 我的秘密花園
1.小时候的理想是什么？
*長大
2.喜欢雨天还是晴天?为什么?
*晴天
3.最喜欢的颜色？
*海藍色
4.如果有机会的话，你最想对你的他说些什么？
*當時想說的話
5.你最想去哪个地方？ 为什么？
*都想去
6.最受不了自己哪个缺点？
*愛睡覺
7.如果有不开心的事情，你会怎么办？
*看心情指數而定
8.最害怕失去的东西？
*寄于希望的東西
9.五年内比较现实的目标是什么？
*學有所長
10.遇到喜欢的人，你是勇敢表白还是默默关注？
*默默關注
11.你愿意跟Jacez一起祈祷,希望第18题的愿望会实现,希望他健健康康,快快乐乐活到一百岁吗?
*願意
12.你希望你的另一半具备的条件是？
*可以和我聊天
13.至今最令你后悔的事是什么？
*都不想看過去,所以沒有最後悔的
14.你最讨厌怎样的人？
*沒有耶
15.你的志愿是什么？
*做個有用的人
17.你认为遇到什么样的事情才会令你觉得人性很黑暗？
*沒有朋友親人
18.如果能让你实现一个愿望，会是什么？
*身邊的人都快快樂樂的
19.圣诞节快到了，想跟谁庆祝？
*他
20. 觉得人生最重要的事情是什么？
*把所有學分修好
更換的題目: 15. 今天的你有開心嗎?
被點名的: 金瀛, 慧娟, 婉蕾, 冠宏, 彥琛, 明偉, Ker Chean, Chen Shang
被點到名字的要在自己的博客裏寫下自己的答案，然後去掉一個你最不喜歡的問題再补上一個你的問題，仍然組成20個問題，傳給其他8個人，列出其他8個需要回答問題的人的名字，還要到這8個人的博客裏留言通知對方—-你被點名了，被點名者不得拒絕回答問題，完成遊戲的人將會永遠得到大家的祝福。
這8個人要在自己的博客裏註明是從哪裏接到的，並且再傳給其他8個人，讓遊戲繼續下去，不得囘傳。被點到名字的人將會得到大家的祝福，並且所有美好的願望都會在不久的將來實現。
點名者 Jacez.com 之 我的秘密花園
1.小时候的理想是什么？
*長大
2.喜欢雨天还是晴天?为什么?
*晴天
3.最喜欢的颜色？
*海藍色
4.如果有机会的话，你最想对你的他说些什么？
*當時想說的話
5.你最想去哪个地方？ 为什么？
*都想去
6.最受不了自己哪个缺点？
*愛睡覺
7.如果有不开心的事情，你会怎么办？
*看心情指數而定
8.最害怕失去的东西？
*寄于希望的東西
9.五年内比较现实的目标是什么？
*學有所長
10.遇到喜欢的人，你是勇敢表白还是默默关注？
*默默關注
11.你愿意跟Jacez一起祈祷,希望第18题的愿望会实现,希望他健健康康,快快乐乐活到一百岁吗?
*願意
12.你希望你的另一半具备的条件是？
*可以和我聊天
13.至今最令你后悔的事是什么？
*都不想看過去,所以沒有最後悔的
14.你最讨厌怎样的人？
*沒有耶
15.你的志愿是什么？
*做個有用的人
17.你认为遇到什么样的事情才会令你觉得人性很黑暗？
*沒有朋友親人
18.如果能让你实现一个愿望，会是什么？
*身邊的人都快快樂樂的
19.圣诞节快到了，想跟谁庆祝？
*他
20. 觉得人生最重要的事情是什么？
*把所有學分修好
更換的題目: 15. 今天的你有開心嗎?
被點名的: 金瀛, 慧娟, 婉蕾, 冠宏, 彥琛, 明偉, Ker Chean, Chen Shang
Saturday, December 01, 2007
Friday, November 30, 2007
Thursday, November 29, 2007
Sunday, November 04, 2007
用心去感觉对方的感受
(感谢家豪的分享）
作者：吴若权
我常常想，人會有那麼多煩愁悲苦， 絕大部分原因是太過執著於「我」， 放不下的全是「我的」，丟不開的， 也都捨不得一個「我」。 我要、我希望、我得到、我委屈、我失去、我少了些什麼、我盼望﹔ 我要年輕、漂亮富有、舒適。 而別人的一切，若是能符合我的要求， 我就開心、就快樂﹔ 同樣的如果對方不能配合我的一切， 那麼，就感受到冷落、受到傷害， 轉化為憤怒、怨恨的情緒。
我們常說和誰談的來， 也常喜歡用氣味相投來形容朋友的契合。一對男女相識、相知、相愛的更高境界， 是心心相印，是心有靈犀﹔人與人之間，最完美的層次，是思想上的相通， 心靈能產生共鳴....這一切的一切， 之所以會發生、能達到，主要是建立在雙方面中間，有一座橋，能夠互通的橋﹔ 想搭起這座橋，第一個原則，就是要了解對方的感受，然後用心去感覺對方的感覺。
因為，在實際生活中， 感覺往往比道理、社會規範更重要， 尤其對感情籤細、思維敏銳的人，感覺，是一種相當主觀的情緒。 它不關是非，更不論對錯， 它不能用很理性的邏輯來分析， 也不適於硬性的規範， 完全是一層直接的情緒反映， 就是一個人的語言、動作所帶給一個人的感應。
如果有一位收入不豐的小職員， 為了補貼家用而努力兼差。 有一天，這位先生領了一千多的加班費， 興高采烈地買了鮮花回家，對太太說：「好棒喔！今天我領到加班費， 特別買了花送妳，晚上我們出去吃小館，看場電影，慶祝一下，好不好？」
這位賢慧的太太很勉強地笑著說： 「幹嘛買花，多浪費！你住賺的錢不多，還是不要亂花，在家隨便吃吃算了。」 基本上，這位太太沒有錯， 她講的也是實話，她是個好太太， 省吃檢用，持家有道。但是， 她讓做丈夫的很不舒服， 一大盆冷水潑下來，一直涼到心底。 癥結就在於，她沒有用心去感覺， 感覺丈夫的一番盛情。
還有一種情形，就是一方遭受挫折， 另外一方的反應與表現，所帶來的感覺。
比如太太到銀行取錢， 在回家的路途上不小心被扒走兩萬多塊錢， 心裡已經又氣又嘔了，沮喪得不得了﹔ 這時做先生的還一味地指責，不停抱怨，「妳怎麼這樣不小心？」 「妳這個人就是這樣粗心大意！」 甚至連陳年老帳都翻出來念。 這位太太丟了錢心裡有啥感覺？ 雪上加霜，氣上加氣！
假如，做丈夫的換一種口吻說﹔ 「這些扒手真的實在很可惡！ 好在妳人平安，也算不幸中大幸。 錢丟了可以再賺，要是人被嚇到才嚴重呢！好啦，別再想了，我們去吃飯吧。」
多用一點心，多加一份慧心， 多注意一下別人的感覺， 多觀察周遭人們的一切，在適當的時候，表達自己的關心、同情， 這不僅僅是一種最高貴的品格， 也是一份令人愉悅的體貼， 一份令人難忘的溫柔。
用心去感覺，感覺世間萬物， 感覺人間小事，感覺甜美、溫馨的快樂， 你會發現，我們居住的這個世界原是處處充滿了愛。
體貼是一種快樂體貼是一種非常高貴、細緻、接近完美的品質。
一個時時能體貼別人的人， 男性我們稱為君子、紳士﹔ 女性稱為溫婉可人或淑女，一個知道體貼別人的人，必然懷抱溫柔，必為性情中人， 也一定是一個值得交往信賴的朋友。
懂得體貼的男人，一定是好丈夫、好情人、好長官、好領袖。 懂得體貼的女人，絕對是好妻子、好母親、好朋友，好的讓你時時想念的女人。
只是，這麼美好的一份情愫，一種人性品格， 卻逐漸地，一點一滴地在我們社會中剝落消失。
作者：吴若权
我常常想，人會有那麼多煩愁悲苦， 絕大部分原因是太過執著於「我」， 放不下的全是「我的」，丟不開的， 也都捨不得一個「我」。 我要、我希望、我得到、我委屈、我失去、我少了些什麼、我盼望﹔ 我要年輕、漂亮富有、舒適。 而別人的一切，若是能符合我的要求， 我就開心、就快樂﹔ 同樣的如果對方不能配合我的一切， 那麼，就感受到冷落、受到傷害， 轉化為憤怒、怨恨的情緒。
我們常說和誰談的來， 也常喜歡用氣味相投來形容朋友的契合。一對男女相識、相知、相愛的更高境界， 是心心相印，是心有靈犀﹔人與人之間，最完美的層次，是思想上的相通， 心靈能產生共鳴....這一切的一切， 之所以會發生、能達到，主要是建立在雙方面中間，有一座橋，能夠互通的橋﹔ 想搭起這座橋，第一個原則，就是要了解對方的感受，然後用心去感覺對方的感覺。
因為，在實際生活中， 感覺往往比道理、社會規範更重要， 尤其對感情籤細、思維敏銳的人，感覺，是一種相當主觀的情緒。 它不關是非，更不論對錯， 它不能用很理性的邏輯來分析， 也不適於硬性的規範， 完全是一層直接的情緒反映， 就是一個人的語言、動作所帶給一個人的感應。
如果有一位收入不豐的小職員， 為了補貼家用而努力兼差。 有一天，這位先生領了一千多的加班費， 興高采烈地買了鮮花回家，對太太說：「好棒喔！今天我領到加班費， 特別買了花送妳，晚上我們出去吃小館，看場電影，慶祝一下，好不好？」
這位賢慧的太太很勉強地笑著說： 「幹嘛買花，多浪費！你住賺的錢不多，還是不要亂花，在家隨便吃吃算了。」 基本上，這位太太沒有錯， 她講的也是實話，她是個好太太， 省吃檢用，持家有道。但是， 她讓做丈夫的很不舒服， 一大盆冷水潑下來，一直涼到心底。 癥結就在於，她沒有用心去感覺， 感覺丈夫的一番盛情。
還有一種情形，就是一方遭受挫折， 另外一方的反應與表現，所帶來的感覺。
比如太太到銀行取錢， 在回家的路途上不小心被扒走兩萬多塊錢， 心裡已經又氣又嘔了，沮喪得不得了﹔ 這時做先生的還一味地指責，不停抱怨，「妳怎麼這樣不小心？」 「妳這個人就是這樣粗心大意！」 甚至連陳年老帳都翻出來念。 這位太太丟了錢心裡有啥感覺？ 雪上加霜，氣上加氣！
假如，做丈夫的換一種口吻說﹔ 「這些扒手真的實在很可惡！ 好在妳人平安，也算不幸中大幸。 錢丟了可以再賺，要是人被嚇到才嚴重呢！好啦，別再想了，我們去吃飯吧。」
多用一點心，多加一份慧心， 多注意一下別人的感覺， 多觀察周遭人們的一切，在適當的時候，表達自己的關心、同情， 這不僅僅是一種最高貴的品格， 也是一份令人愉悅的體貼， 一份令人難忘的溫柔。
用心去感覺，感覺世間萬物， 感覺人間小事，感覺甜美、溫馨的快樂， 你會發現，我們居住的這個世界原是處處充滿了愛。
體貼是一種快樂體貼是一種非常高貴、細緻、接近完美的品質。
一個時時能體貼別人的人， 男性我們稱為君子、紳士﹔ 女性稱為溫婉可人或淑女，一個知道體貼別人的人，必然懷抱溫柔，必為性情中人， 也一定是一個值得交往信賴的朋友。
懂得體貼的男人，一定是好丈夫、好情人、好長官、好領袖。 懂得體貼的女人，絕對是好妻子、好母親、好朋友，好的讓你時時想念的女人。
只是，這麼美好的一份情愫，一種人性品格， 卻逐漸地，一點一滴地在我們社會中剝落消失。
Saturday, November 03, 2007
Saturday, October 27, 2007
回忆
爱的代价
歌手：张艾嘉
星期五这一天，突然回忆起以前与家人一起观赏电视剧的情景。从琼瑶的爱情苦情片，金庸的武侠片，各位神明的生平故事到铁面无私的包青天等等等等。青青河边草，包青天，哪咤，望夫崖，三千金，关公传，土地公传，神雕侠侣，书剑恩仇录等等等等。这里写出的只是当时我所看过的十分之一。 突然间，很想念以前的时光。真的很谢谢爸妈。因为他们没有禁止当时的我们观看这些电视剧。也因为这样，我才有这么多美好的回忆；也因为这样，我才会热爱华语；也因为这样，我的中文程度才不至于太差；也因为这样，我才有美好的童年。走过的日子，不管当时有多苦，回忆过去时， 总会很甜很甜...
朋友，微笑的走过每一天。 让我们的回忆，都是甜甜的。
歌手：张艾嘉
星期五这一天，突然回忆起以前与家人一起观赏电视剧的情景。从琼瑶的爱情苦情片，金庸的武侠片，各位神明的生平故事到铁面无私的包青天等等等等。青青河边草，包青天，哪咤，望夫崖，三千金，关公传，土地公传，神雕侠侣，书剑恩仇录等等等等。这里写出的只是当时我所看过的十分之一。 突然间，很想念以前的时光。真的很谢谢爸妈。因为他们没有禁止当时的我们观看这些电视剧。也因为这样，我才有这么多美好的回忆；也因为这样，我才会热爱华语；也因为这样，我的中文程度才不至于太差；也因为这样，我才有美好的童年。走过的日子，不管当时有多苦，回忆过去时， 总会很甜很甜...
朋友，微笑的走过每一天。 让我们的回忆，都是甜甜的。
Thursday, October 25, 2007
Nice Articles to Share...
(Thanks Kiang for sharing this email with me. And thanks to the author of these articles. )
TRUST
Trust is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.
A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call.
She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence.
She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer.
When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB.Sorry , I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is."
Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".
NO POINTING FINGERS
A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"
The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."
We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face.
Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war.
We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.
If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.
CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?
A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one."
The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please."
"Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest."
The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."
There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife.
Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship.
Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.
NO OVERPOWERING
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another,or demands too much.
People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage.
Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."
It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations.
RIGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation."
Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.
A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site.
A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,"Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school."
On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me.Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker."
She answered ,"You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you."
Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.
PERSONAL PERCEPTION
Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison.
A couple bought a donkey from the market.
On the way home,a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?"
Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them.
Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?"
Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.
Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey.
Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you."
Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.
It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river.
You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.
Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..
BE PATIENT
This is a true story which happened in the States.
A man came out of his home to admire his new truck.
To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck.
The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment.
When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.
Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands.
When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, " Daddy,I'm sorry about your truck."
Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?"
The father went home & committed suicide.
Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge.
Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love.
Trucks can be repaired.
Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't.
Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.
People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.
TRUST
Trust is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.
A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call.
She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence.
She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer.
When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB.Sorry , I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is."
Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".
NO POINTING FINGERS
A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"
The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."
We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face.
Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war.
We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.
If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.
CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?
A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one."
The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please."
"Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest."
The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."
There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife.
Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship.
Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.
NO OVERPOWERING
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another,or demands too much.
People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage.
Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."
It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations.
RIGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation."
Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.
A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site.
A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,"Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school."
On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me.Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker."
She answered ,"You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you."
Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.
PERSONAL PERCEPTION
Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison.
A couple bought a donkey from the market.
On the way home,a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?"
Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them.
Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?"
Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.
Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey.
Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you."
Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.
It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river.
You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.
Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..
BE PATIENT
This is a true story which happened in the States.
A man came out of his home to admire his new truck.
To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck.
The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment.
When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.
Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands.
When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, " Daddy,I'm sorry about your truck."
Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?"
The father went home & committed suicide.
Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge.
Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love.
Trucks can be repaired.
Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't.
Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.
People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.
Wednesday, October 24, 2007
小亲亲
（以这首歌献给一位在近期刚注册结婚的朋友）
歌词来源＋试听
Source of lyric + Listen online
歌手：范玮琪
最喜欢爱着你专注的眼光
聆听我说的每一句话
因为你所以幻想晴天娃娃
把乌云统统赶到别的地方
亲亲笑 亲亲笑
亲亲知道有多爱你吗
把头靠在你的肩膀
能感受到最暖的心房
最喜欢你送给我的西洋装
让幸福穿在我的身上
全世界我只为你一个人漂亮
你一样不再为爱飘飘荡荡
亲亲笑 亲亲笑
亲亲知道有多爱你吗
把头靠在你的肩膀
能感受到最暖的心房
亲亲笑 亲亲笑
亲亲知道有多爱你吗
把头靠在你的肩膀
Key要这么高是要整死我吗
p/s: 这首歌是在范范哲学家专辑里属于较开心和温馨的歌，希望可以让听的人有个好心情。
歌词来源＋试听
Source of lyric + Listen online
歌手：范玮琪
最喜欢爱着你专注的眼光
聆听我说的每一句话
因为你所以幻想晴天娃娃
把乌云统统赶到别的地方
亲亲笑 亲亲笑
亲亲知道有多爱你吗
把头靠在你的肩膀
能感受到最暖的心房
最喜欢你送给我的西洋装
让幸福穿在我的身上
全世界我只为你一个人漂亮
你一样不再为爱飘飘荡荡
亲亲笑 亲亲笑
亲亲知道有多爱你吗
把头靠在你的肩膀
能感受到最暖的心房
亲亲笑 亲亲笑
亲亲知道有多爱你吗
把头靠在你的肩膀
Key要这么高是要整死我吗
p/s: 这首歌是在范范哲学家专辑里属于较开心和温馨的歌，希望可以让听的人有个好心情。
你是答案
歌词来源＋试听
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歌手：范玮琪
作词：姚若龙 作曲：王雅君
如果世界 忘了旋转 谁用春光 让冬夜温暖
如果星星 不那麽灿烂 谁还会向他许愿期待他陪伴
如果今天 泪光闪闪 谁让明天 值得我乐观
如果怕风 少了安全感 谁把我放在宇宙中心宠爱
而你是我的答案最确定的答案
像走在一条花开的路不会错过美满
缘份转几个弯 证明我们不会走散
学会用眼神牵手那才浪漫
你是我的答案不变的答案
有了自己的天使 做什麽都显得勇敢
顺着梦的沿岸 只有收获没有遗憾
被握着手心看的未来 永远蔚蓝
而你是我的答案最确定的答案
有了自己的天使 做什麽都显得勇敢
顺着梦的沿岸 只有收获没有遗憾
被握着手心看的未来 永远蔚蓝
p/s: 这首歌是在范范哲学家专辑里属于较开心和温馨的歌，希望可以让听的人有个好心情。
Source of lyric + Listen online
歌手：范玮琪
作词：姚若龙 作曲：王雅君
如果世界 忘了旋转 谁用春光 让冬夜温暖
如果星星 不那麽灿烂 谁还会向他许愿期待他陪伴
如果今天 泪光闪闪 谁让明天 值得我乐观
如果怕风 少了安全感 谁把我放在宇宙中心宠爱
而你是我的答案最确定的答案
像走在一条花开的路不会错过美满
缘份转几个弯 证明我们不会走散
学会用眼神牵手那才浪漫
你是我的答案不变的答案
有了自己的天使 做什麽都显得勇敢
顺着梦的沿岸 只有收获没有遗憾
被握着手心看的未来 永远蔚蓝
而你是我的答案最确定的答案
有了自己的天使 做什麽都显得勇敢
顺着梦的沿岸 只有收获没有遗憾
被握着手心看的未来 永远蔚蓝
p/s: 这首歌是在范范哲学家专辑里属于较开心和温馨的歌，希望可以让听的人有个好心情。
Friday, October 19, 2007
珍贵的友情
（以下故事纯属虚构，如有雷同，实属巧合）
“禾，待会儿我们要到Banting去，有一个烧烤会，你要不要去？”
“嗯，我考虑看看。”
禾知道今天是星期五，因为他最近都很忙，她和他都没有好好相处过了。今天是他手头上的工作告一段落的日子，本来就打算今天一起看场电影，打一场游戏。怎办？她在友情和爱情之间须要做一个抉择。
她，询问他的意见。
他，虽然希望她陪他，但他不希望她处于两难的状况。他叫她去。
她，明白他的心思。经过心理的挣扎，她决定了。
她决定推了那朋友的聚会,留下来。
这样的决定，她都反反复复的做着。三次中，有两次她都会选择留下。
.
.
.
K年后，她开始怀念那些和朋友三五成群，一起在图书馆逗留，一起去mamak档吃supper，一起去某某餐厅庆生等等等等。
她，开始觉得，除了他，朋友也很重要。
~~~~~~
“佳，朋友也很重要啊！有时和另一伴吵架时，朋友就很重要。”
“和另一伴吵架，是两个人之间沟通出了问题，为什么你不尝试去了解，和对方多做沟通呢？每个人都有他们独特的想法啊！就好像一张纸有两面，你问了朋友，他们可能这样想，那并不代表你的另一伴也那样想啊！”
“... ... ”
.
.
.
K年后，他们听到一首歌。
刘若英：“我真的觉得朋友很重要，就是那个真的觉得很委屈的时候...”
范玮琪：“有一个人在旁边说我懂。”
刘若英：“对，我不管他到底懂不懂。”
他说他觉得刘若英说得很对。
她，因为时间和环境的磨练，她默许了。
她和他，终于有同样的想法：朋友很重要。
~~~~~~
“金，我下个星期二会随父亲到你那边附近。我们出来见个面。再联络哦！”
“金，我会在家乡待到九月。如果你有回来，记得找我。我的电话是：xxxxxxxxxx。我已经和焕，靖，耀他们见过面了。你回来家乡一定要联络我哦。”
“金，我这个周末会回家乡。你有在吗？你可以来我的家过夜哦！”
...
一次又一次，她错过了和他或她见面的机会。原因？懒？忙？家人？
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.
.
K年后，她，经过那特别的经历，她才明白，为什么那些到海外念书的朋友总会用尽一切力量与每一位朋友保持联络。她，学会了更珍惜朋友。
她终于觉得，也感觉到：朋友真的很重要。
~~~~~~
“匀，别难过，我们知道我们的友情不会因为毕业而结束。”
那年那天，她和她们，在心里默默的许下承诺，她们之间的友谊不会结束。但是，日子一天一天过。人也会一天一天的改变。她发现，她们都变了。想法，观点，都不一样了。曾几何时，她担心：见面少了，友情会变淡吗？
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K年后，她在异乡。难过的时候，寂寞的时候，想到的，始终是那几位知己。他们让她感觉她还是她。她，也感受到，真正的友谊是不会被距离和时间给磨灭的。当她寂寞，有疑惑，他们总会在那里给她隐形的支持力量。有时，虽然他们不说话，但有个人在那里陪着她，她已觉得足够了。她，感觉到，朋友真的很重要。
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四则小故事。与大家分享。这几天，总觉得不怎么开心。因为看到几位朋友被恋爱那把刀给割得伤痕累累。很想与他们分担，但不懂该说什么。
希望大家多多珍惜身边的朋友。可能你和他不怎么亲密，你和他不可能聊心事，你和他不可能...但是，别忘了，你的生活，因为有他或她，所以才会这样的完美。别再用“忙”当借口。今天就拿起电话，向很久没联络的朋友问候。
也谢谢在我生命中的朋友。因为有你，世界变得更完美。
“禾，待会儿我们要到Banting去，有一个烧烤会，你要不要去？”
“嗯，我考虑看看。”
禾知道今天是星期五，因为他最近都很忙，她和他都没有好好相处过了。今天是他手头上的工作告一段落的日子，本来就打算今天一起看场电影，打一场游戏。怎办？她在友情和爱情之间须要做一个抉择。
她，询问他的意见。
他，虽然希望她陪他，但他不希望她处于两难的状况。他叫她去。
她，明白他的心思。经过心理的挣扎，她决定了。
她决定推了那朋友的聚会,留下来。
这样的决定，她都反反复复的做着。三次中，有两次她都会选择留下。
.
.
.
K年后，她开始怀念那些和朋友三五成群，一起在图书馆逗留，一起去mamak档吃supper，一起去某某餐厅庆生等等等等。
她，开始觉得，除了他，朋友也很重要。
~~~~~~
“佳，朋友也很重要啊！有时和另一伴吵架时，朋友就很重要。”
“和另一伴吵架，是两个人之间沟通出了问题，为什么你不尝试去了解，和对方多做沟通呢？每个人都有他们独特的想法啊！就好像一张纸有两面，你问了朋友，他们可能这样想，那并不代表你的另一伴也那样想啊！”
“... ... ”
.
.
.
K年后，他们听到一首歌。
刘若英：“我真的觉得朋友很重要，就是那个真的觉得很委屈的时候...”
范玮琪：“有一个人在旁边说我懂。”
刘若英：“对，我不管他到底懂不懂。”
他说他觉得刘若英说得很对。
她，因为时间和环境的磨练，她默许了。
她和他，终于有同样的想法：朋友很重要。
~~~~~~
“金，我下个星期二会随父亲到你那边附近。我们出来见个面。再联络哦！”
“金，我会在家乡待到九月。如果你有回来，记得找我。我的电话是：xxxxxxxxxx。我已经和焕，靖，耀他们见过面了。你回来家乡一定要联络我哦。”
“金，我这个周末会回家乡。你有在吗？你可以来我的家过夜哦！”
...
一次又一次，她错过了和他或她见面的机会。原因？懒？忙？家人？
.
.
.
K年后，她，经过那特别的经历，她才明白，为什么那些到海外念书的朋友总会用尽一切力量与每一位朋友保持联络。她，学会了更珍惜朋友。
她终于觉得，也感觉到：朋友真的很重要。
~~~~~~
“匀，别难过，我们知道我们的友情不会因为毕业而结束。”
那年那天，她和她们，在心里默默的许下承诺，她们之间的友谊不会结束。但是，日子一天一天过。人也会一天一天的改变。她发现，她们都变了。想法，观点，都不一样了。曾几何时，她担心：见面少了，友情会变淡吗？
.
.
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K年后，她在异乡。难过的时候，寂寞的时候，想到的，始终是那几位知己。他们让她感觉她还是她。她，也感受到，真正的友谊是不会被距离和时间给磨灭的。当她寂寞，有疑惑，他们总会在那里给她隐形的支持力量。有时，虽然他们不说话，但有个人在那里陪着她，她已觉得足够了。她，感觉到，朋友真的很重要。
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四则小故事。与大家分享。这几天，总觉得不怎么开心。因为看到几位朋友被恋爱那把刀给割得伤痕累累。很想与他们分担，但不懂该说什么。
希望大家多多珍惜身边的朋友。可能你和他不怎么亲密，你和他不可能聊心事，你和他不可能...但是，别忘了，你的生活，因为有他或她，所以才会这样的完美。别再用“忙”当借口。今天就拿起电话，向很久没联络的朋友问候。
也谢谢在我生命中的朋友。因为有你，世界变得更完美。
Thursday, October 18, 2007
Tuesday, October 16, 2007
不能跟情人说的话
歌手：范玮琪+刘若英
有時候對一個人 那麼用心
卻還是搞不清楚 她的落寂
談戀愛誰沒演過一點戲
裝沒事 裝忘記 裝相信
有時候和一個人 那麼盡力
卻還是忍不住想 保護自己
誰戀愛不曾藏一點秘密
留防備 留回憶 留心情
謝謝你總是陪我分享
不能跟情人說的話
我反反複複你也從不笑我
老是罵他卻又離不開他
謝謝你總是替我收藏
不想跟情人說的話
我胡思亂想你一直握著我手
讓我釋放 然後慢慢寬廣
謝謝你總是陪我分享
不能跟情人說的話
我反反複複你也從不笑我
老是罵他卻又離不開他
謝謝你總是替我收藏
不想跟情人說的話
我胡思亂想你一直握著我手
讓我釋放 然後慢慢寬廣
別人都說我很堅強
只有你勸我別逞強
愛是漂亮卻不完美的天堂
舊了總有需要修補的地方
謝謝你總是陪我分享
不能跟情人說的話
我反反複複你也從不笑我
老是罵他卻又離不開他
謝謝你總是替我收藏
不想跟情人說的話
我胡思亂想你一直握著我手
讓我釋放 然後慢慢寬廣
诚实
歌手：范玮琪
试听和歌词来源
Source of lyrics
你说我变漂亮了
有一种清朗的神色
你的微笑挡着快决堤的寂寞
我心疼但没说 也不能说
你说你们分开了
为什么我眼睛红了
星星像被风吹得有点摇晃着
你试着牵我手 我躲开了
有时候诚实多么不容易
尤其是看最爱的人伤心
你的幸福真的不在我这里
你走以后 我整理好就再确定
对自己诚实岂只是勇气
懂得坚持更要舍得放弃
有些感动 会落地生根的定居
有些快乐 是终究对回家的旅行
你说我变漂亮了
有一种清朗的神色
你的微笑挡着快决堤的寂寞
我心疼但没说 也不能说
你说你们分开了
为什么我眼睛红了
星星像被风吹得有点摇晃着
你试着牵我手 我躲开了
有时候诚实多么不容易
尤其是看最爱的人伤心
你的幸福真的不在我这里
你走以后 我整理好就再确定
对自己诚实岂只是勇气
懂得坚持更要舍得放弃
有些感动 会落地生根的定居
有些快乐 是终究对回家的旅行
有时候诚实多么不容易
尤其是看最爱的人伤心
你的幸福真的不在我这里
你走以后 我整理好就再确定
对自己诚实岂只是勇气
懂得坚持更要舍得放弃
有些感动 会落地生根的定居
有些快乐 是终究对回家的旅行
p/s:范范的最新专辑还蛮多首歌合我胃口，好听好听...
试听和歌词来源
Source of lyrics
你说我变漂亮了
有一种清朗的神色
你的微笑挡着快决堤的寂寞
我心疼但没说 也不能说
你说你们分开了
为什么我眼睛红了
星星像被风吹得有点摇晃着
你试着牵我手 我躲开了
有时候诚实多么不容易
尤其是看最爱的人伤心
你的幸福真的不在我这里
你走以后 我整理好就再确定
对自己诚实岂只是勇气
懂得坚持更要舍得放弃
有些感动 会落地生根的定居
有些快乐 是终究对回家的旅行
你说我变漂亮了
有一种清朗的神色
你的微笑挡着快决堤的寂寞
我心疼但没说 也不能说
你说你们分开了
为什么我眼睛红了
星星像被风吹得有点摇晃着
你试着牵我手 我躲开了
有时候诚实多么不容易
尤其是看最爱的人伤心
你的幸福真的不在我这里
你走以后 我整理好就再确定
对自己诚实岂只是勇气
懂得坚持更要舍得放弃
有些感动 会落地生根的定居
有些快乐 是终究对回家的旅行
有时候诚实多么不容易
尤其是看最爱的人伤心
你的幸福真的不在我这里
你走以后 我整理好就再确定
对自己诚实岂只是勇气
懂得坚持更要舍得放弃
有些感动 会落地生根的定居
有些快乐 是终究对回家的旅行
p/s:范范的最新专辑还蛮多首歌合我胃口，好听好听...
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